Comparison. I said it. That horrible word! Comparison is our own worst enemy and for a couple reasons. For starters, it can make us absolutely miserable as we try to measure up to the person (or idea of a person) that we are comparing ourselves to. And secondly, it diverts our focus from our true goals, from becoming the person God created us to be. So let me tell you a story.
Once upon a time, there was this wonderful human that God created. He created her to be confident and developed her to be patient and wait on His timing. He made her so that she wanted for nothing (material), was grateful for everything she was given and was focused on following her calling, essentially to become the best version of herself. Because she was happy and content, she was vibrant and nothing stopped her.
But then it all changed. Life happened. She started to notice that others were moving past her in their careers. Friends accumulated more wealth and had the financial security she wanted. Those around her spent more time and money on things like personal care, clothing and cars. Many in her circle were freshly married and beginning their families. She started to feel less than. She was lagging behind her peers. And soon her goals moved away from becoming the best version of herself in God’s eyes and closer to the best version of herself in her eyes of comparison.
So she started to lose herself and what truly mattered. She no longer had meaningful relationships. The meaning in her interactions with friends, family and strangers was lost. She was too busy making sure she was good enough to the comparison she built in her mind. This then affected her confidence, caused her to swim towards the sea of depression and eventually throw away her God-given goals altogether. She thought that if only she could be what she decided was good enough, then she would be happy. But that’s not the answer.
We lose ourselves when we have our eyes focused on the things of this world. And we find ourselves again when we focus on God above. Take time to answer these questions.
What does He want for you?
Who does He want you to be – for yourself and for others?
What does He want you focusing on day in and day out?
Let’s just boil it down. What would bring you the most JOY?
Only you can answer these questions for yourself. But if you find the comparison bug biting hard, try changing your focus. Look less at where you are compared to others and focus more on following God’s call for your life.